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How many times have I heard this in my 23 years of blissful life ? Ten in the mind, five in the finger… Oops! Why am I getting into kindergarten mathematics ? Anyway, The point here is, I don’t remember my dear ones’ birthdays and often gets in a embarassing situation. This is more often happening with the opposite sex. If I forget a guy’s birthday, I have a lot of excuses and I can easily escape making pun about his birthday. What if I forget a girl’s birthday ? Gosh! The next time I speak to her, I am done. There is no room for any excuses. I am doomed.
One fine day, I forwarded a good text message to a very old friend after a very long time . She enquired my well wishes and after a flurry of text messages, a sharp message hit me straight on my head. It goes like this,
She : How come you forgot that it’s my birthday today?
Me : How come I forgot it?
As always, all my excuses were in vain.
Another day , one of my cousin asked me what plans I had for my birthday. I never knew that she knew mine and also had forgot that she had mentioned her birth date,to me, earlier. I was at the peak of amnesia and asked when her birthday was. She stopped speaking to me for a while. Oh Gosh! When will I start remembering birthdays? 
yet another day , I was desparate to break my ugly track record. I text messaged one of former classmates on her birthday.
Me : Happy birthday!
She : Thank you so much. But it isn’t mine today. It is Preethi’s.
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Me : Sorry! hehehehe 
And just before posting this, was chatting with a friend and the conversation was about the shopping I did today.
She : So, what did you buy for my birthday?
Me : Nothing dear. When is your birthday?
She : You forgot my birthday?
Me : Is it not on the November 3rd ?
She : I have mentioned it already. Forget it.
Me : Yeah! I forgot it. When is it?
She :
What I infer here is that either I need to have a recurring calendar setup for all my dear ones’ birthdays or salvage myself stating that remebering a birthday is a girly thing and not definitely male.
Boy i have this same problem. I cant remember anybody’s birthday. I’m very bad at remembering dates. So I use google calendar and alerts.
Hmmm! SO, I am not alone.
Anyway, does google calendar has the feature for recurring events? I doubt it. Need to check it again in their what’s new section. 
Remembering dates is not a girly thing, because I am hopeless when it comes to remembering birthdays
[of course, I'm not considering the other inference 
]
Most of the time, I do not remember anyone’s birthday… and I don’t keep a list anywhere (Orkut is helpful nowadays thou). And then, sometimes, even if I do remember the birth date of any of my friends, its always an irony that I forget it on that specific day and remember either 10 days before (when it is too early to call up and wish them) or a month later (when I’m bound to get bashings, even if I do). Same with Anniversaries and other special days.
However, I’ve seen that a lot of other girls take this pretty seriously – calling up people on their birthdays to wish them, getting gifts etc, almost as if everything depended on it. Most guys I’ve seen don’t really remember such things, but the ones that do, gloat about it almost like its a divine power
.
I’ve been in a lot of sticky situations where I forgot birthdays of people very close to me (esp. people who consider such things as very important), and then had to face their wounded expression. But the truth is, that I’ve never attached a lot of importance to it anyway, which could explain why I forget the date. I guess for me, friendship goes much beyond a date or a gift – it is important for me that my friend is loyal, trust-worthy and dependable – a person who’ll be there in all my good and trying times, a person who would praise and criticize… and that is the sort of friend I strive to be, to my friends.
For me, a person who remembers all the important dates in my life, and never forgets to wish me, but doesn’t understand me as a person, wouldn’t really make a dent in my life… In fact, I never really care to keep track of how many people called me up on a special date, or how many gave me gifts. But I do keep track of how many friends are there who I can really open up to, or people who’re there for me, and for whom I’d like to be there too…
I think it all depends on whether your relationship with these people depended on your remembering their important dates? If it does, maybe you can go the extra mile, and try to change
, atleast to make them happy.
Yes google calendar does has recurring events from the date it was out in public. May be you missed it. Its set by the “Repeat” option. I’m sure it was there coz the first event i was put was for a b’day which repeats every year. I also have a complex event put in which repeats on the first monday of every month.
Shikha – That comment can be a post on your blog
Umesh: Yes, I did realize that after I wrote and submitted the whole thing… maybe I will write that sometime later
Umesh,
I missed it out. Thanks! For others who want to know how to add a recurring event in google calendar, askdavetaylor
Shikha,
Clear insightful thinking.
hmmm.
enakkum ithe problem than da.
I know man! We are sailing in the same boat.
Is this (Karthick) the same person who hates people who do not remember others (your!!) name?
So which is more important? The Name, The Date or The Understanding/acceptance?
Thomas, I still make sure that I remember other people’s names . I still believe that remembering a person’s name is more important than remembering his or her birthday.
Understanding and acceptance are different things which I don’t want to delve into as Shikha has done that bit for me already.
I have a small suggestion that can make you better without these thecie ones. Just get a calendar that has a full year in a single sheet and shade those important dates. If you are suffering from Amnesia (like karthick
) you can write the name of the person in the back of the calendar. This really helps me. whenever i see the calendar I will remember those important dates.
I had the same problem but found this solution since i am not a techie person.
Karthik, referring to your post, its a girly thing not only in bithdays in many ways.
Once my dear friend called me late in the night, half into sleep I picked his called and said something and hangedup. The next day morning my mom told me that I spoke to my friend very rude. Realizing this I called him and as I expected he did not pickup then i had to meet him personally and solve it.
What happens if the friend is a Girl… ???
Ananth! Stop kidding.
And by the way, thanks a ton for the suggestion. I am not good at keeping records in diaries or calendars. May be, I can suggest it to others. Anyway, I have learned to setup birthday calendar with google. Hope should not be an issue. Let’s see. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
P.S. :- I found through orkut that your birthday is coming soon. Will wish you for sure as I have marked it in my calendar.